Difficult times come in all shapes, forms and people. Sometimes we see them coming. Sometimes we don't.
Going through a difficult time doesn't mean it's your fault or that something is necessarily wrong, it just means life is taking it's course and some things are coming to their end or life is preparing for the arrival of something good. Ever thought about it like that?
No Warning
We go through tough times without any warning. We don't have time to prepare. Everyone recognises these times differently, in their own way, which depends on what they have already been through. You may have a better or worse instinct or mindset about these times.
But it's okay, you are not suppose to get a warning every time. Who would give you that warning? your future self? an angel? that only happens in movies. Lets live in reality for starters.
What Are Diffucult Times
I can't give a full list that you can refer to that will help you categorise your situation. But, I can give you examples.
Health situations - being diagnosed with a major disease, recovering from an operation or loss of energy, terminal illness, a constant issue that doctors are unable to identify and correctly diagnose (most common with women), being born with a disability or health issue which limits your from what most people can do
Responsibilities - becoming a carer for a dementia or cancer patient all of a sudden, having responsibility of raising your kids alone, struggling to balance all your responsibilities, failing and falling at the expectations people had of you
Relationships - not just with your partners but you mother, father, siblings and friends. A fight or argument can happen with anyone. Or maybe you never got on with your mother or father from the beginning and feel there is a personality clash.
Emotional or Spiritual Struggle - this could be caused by a financial loss, future lack of motivation and willingness to do things you enjoy, losing a job or relationship, seasonal depression, going through betrayel or heartbreak, a world catastrophe unfolding and you feeling helpless.
What I Do During Tough Times
I am a Muslim. I turn to my faith (Islam) and find comfort in the words of the Quran. We believe everything happens for a reason whether the reason is known to you or not. You don't know as much as God knows, so you can't assume what is actually bad for you. Because what is bad for you might be good for you and what is good for you might be bad. These quotes always make me feel better and give me some mental relaxation when something does not go my way and I start questioning 'why me?'
I also rant about it to my friends (sometimes), listen to a podcast on topics surrounding hard times, I watch my favourite movie, sleep and eat.
What Can You Do
Take care of yourself because no one else will.
We are all nice, happy, grateful and know it all until something bad happens. The real challenge in becoming a person who is self aware, open minded and in control of themself is how you act and manage yourself during a difficult time.
Have you ever thought of writing your thoughts down? I don't mean journalling because that is asking for commitment. Just grab a pen a paper and write... let your mind and hand put your thoughts onto the paper.
This might sound weird but video record yourself and talk to yourself as if you are your best friends rant it outtt!! I mean who doesn't want to be a vlogger ;)
I hope this blog entry helped at least one of you feel better and encourage more self awareness during hard times. Limit your thoughts and stop fixating onto that one thing - it will only lead you down into darkness. Tell yourself that you are grateful for certain things in your life and breath.
You will be fine. You are strong for this otherwise you would not be in this situation.
- Z
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